Answer all 25 questions honestly — about the child you actually know, not the child you hope they are becoming. There is no wrong result. Every result tells you something useful.
When your child is disappointed — by a result, a decision, or something that didn't go their way — how do they typically manage it?
Question 2 of 25
When something is hard or frustrating, does your child come to you for support — or do they withdraw and deal with it alone in ways that sometimes escalate?
Question 3 of 25
Does your child show awareness of how their emotions affect the people around them — or do they express without much consideration of impact?
Question 4 of 25
If your child received an upsetting message or saw something disturbing online, do you believe they would tell you — even if they were worried about your reaction?
Question 5 of 25
When a situation is genuinely unfair or hard, can your child sit with the discomfort rather than acting out, shutting down, or demanding an immediate resolution?
Digital Self-Regulation
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Question 6 of 25
When your child is on a screen and it is time to stop, how much effort does it take to get them off?
Question 7 of 25
Does your child notice when they have been on a screen for a long time — or does awareness require an external prompt from you?
Question 8 of 25
Is your child's mood noticeably affected when they cannot access a screen — irritable, withdrawn, or preoccupied with when they can get back to it?
Question 9 of 25
When your child has access to a screen, do they use it as one of several activities in a day — or does it tend to crowd out most other activities?
Question 10 of 25
Has your child ever come to you voluntarily and said something like "I think I've been on my phone too much" — showing self-awareness about their own digital use?
Communication & Honesty
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Question 11 of 25
When your child makes a mistake, do they typically tell you before they are caught — or do you usually discover it yourself?
Question 12 of 25
Does your child tell you the truth about what they have been doing online — even when they know you might not approve?
Question 13 of 25
If your child was confused or upset by something they encountered online — something they did not fully understand — do you believe they would come to you, even if embarrassed?
Question 14 of 25
Does your child ask questions about things they do not understand — online, socially, or in general — rather than making decisions with incomplete information?
Question 15 of 25
Is your relationship with your child one where they generally feel safe telling you difficult things — or do they tend to manage problems privately to avoid your reaction?
Social Judgment
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Question 16 of 25
Does your child understand that what feels like a private conversation in a message can become public if someone shares it — and do they behave accordingly?
Question 17 of 25
When a peer does something unkind, irresponsible, or risky, does your child tend to follow — or do they hold their own position?
Question 18 of 25
Does your child think before sending something — or do they tend to send first and consider consequences after?
Question 19 of 25
Would your child recognise if someone online was attempting to manipulate, pressurise, or extract personal information from them?
Question 20 of 25
Does your child understand that being unkind online has the same consequence as being unkind in person — and do they hold that standard with their peers?
Family Trust & Accountability
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Question 21 of 25
Does your child generally follow the agreements and rules already in place in your home — without you needing to police them constantly?
Question 22 of 25
When a household rule does not make sense to your child, do they raise it with you directly — or do they quietly circumvent it?
Question 23 of 25
Do you trust your child with small responsibilities — and do they meet them? Not perfectly, but consistently?
Question 24 of 25
Does your child understand that trust is built incrementally — that being given access to something like a phone comes with the responsibility to maintain the trust it represents?
Question 25 of 25
Overall: if you had to describe the current state of trust in your relationship with your child, would you say it is a foundation strong enough to add a phone onto?